We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today. ~Stacia Tauscher
I know the title of the post is self-explanatory but want to share more.
When my daughter was 2-year-old we noticed the only way she would play with anything and everything was to line them up …no matter what she had, cars, toys, shoes…. They all would fall in same line and then the game would end. She never used to play like other kids…this was when we started noticing other things and then came to know about her Autism…we were told most of the autistic kids don’t or can’t pretend play….you know how we would take a comb or a pencil box and act as if it were a phone or a microphone and talk.
Most of them( Autistic kids) will have no idea what to do with a car or a doll ….And we were told by the doctors and special educators to teach Bonita pretend play…..that is wroom with a car,or dressing up a doll,make up,pretending to be doctor,or teacher etc…and age appropriate plays and language.
And this is how our journey to Zonita began.
[I was quite a naughty kid and I always thought Oh all these brilliant naughty ideas and no one to share with....and look at Gods mysterious ways...he must have really loved my naughtiness for now he wanted my daughter to learn them and that too from one of the best in the business.]
Our pretend play sessions were full of mischief and laughter (otherwise what is the point) like this one time we pretended there was water in the room and we swam across room and fought with crocodiles and a snake.
Oh there were so many things we did…One Day I told her we both have to talk loud as we are in a market and there is too much noise all around, And then next time we whispered as we were in jungle surrounded by dinosaurs
We still do a lot of things Crazy and fun.
One day we decided we will only talk in NATO phonetic Alphabets….Oh! that was tough and we could not continue it for more than half an hour ,For just to say “Bonita finish your food” meant
Bravo Oscar November IndiaTango Alpha Foxtrot India November IndiaSierra Hotel Yankee Oscar Uniform Romeo Foxtrot Oscar Oscar Delta
That was tough and we laughed more than we talked every time some big sentence came up
Anyways the point of all these were to introduce her to endless possibilities…having fun with whatever we had, teaching her to be naughty too….so in all these crazy moments we decided we will have alphabet days.
So on a B day every word would start with B
Bonita finish your food would be Bonita binish bour bood and then she would say bes bommy
One of the Tuesday afternoon after picking her from the gate where the school van drops off all the kids,we were in the lift and having this ‘B’ routine, there was one more kid in the lift.He must have enjoyed it a lot cos he told me Bauntie boo bar bo bunny
To which I said- Bank bou.Bi bam blad bou biked bit
He laughed and said this is fun I have to tell this to my friends
I asked him his name and he said I don’t like my name. That… that was the point I fell in love with his cute little kid…..You See I don’t like my name too ( It’s a long story will tell you some other day, Hope my parents are reading this ). So I told him I will call him chuckles cos I love the way he laughs. He laughed and agreed( and his names keeps changing Zuckles on a Zday,Nuckles on Nday)
Now I have to mention here,Even though we live in the same building Chuckles and I don’t meet that often due to different school timings
So next time we met it was a Z day and he joined in
Zello Zonita,he said
Bonita was happy to have a new Zriend and she said Zello Zuckles
Bonita told him she didn’t like one of her teachers and zuckles said that was normal and so on
And yesterday all of a sudden zuckles showed up at my door with his friends and asked me what day was it I said it was Zday and he grinned and said he loved Z
So all of us spoke about anything and everything in Z they laughed and rolled on floor.And told me they will have these funny days when they play.
Then one of the kids who was 6 years old said he hated math’s( he said Zi zate Zaths)….Everyone understood and sympathized
Then he asked me auntie can’t we live without learning math!
What??? there was a pin drop silent and all of them were looking at me And I was desperately trying to think of something clever.I said I didn’t like maths at all ( I really don’t) but some things in life you must learn, like riding a cycle…or learning how to swim…
How can math be like cycle zuckles asked?
Well, I told when you grow up you may or may not need to ride a cycle but if you learn riding one you will learn how to balance and this will come handy in other things too…Similarly when you grow up you may not have to solve the same questions you solve now….But plus minus, multiplication, division, fractions…are the basic math which you will need in your day-to-day life.
So they all decided they will learn basic math ( atleast)except for one kid who loved math
Phew
So zuckles and zis zriends zaid zeir zoodzyes zand zent zaway
What a day we had…
Oh before I go… Today is Nday
No nave na neautiful nay nall nof nou nand Nake nare

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What a great Mom, you are! Nice story. : )
Thanks Sam you are such an inspiration
hugs n love
Hugsss and some more,,,,,
Somzy,,,,U r Ali Madam true protegee,,,Bonita is sooo lucky to have you ….
Thanks Rich you are a sweet heart
A fascinating and well done post. If more parents invested time in creative play with their children, all of the children would be better adjusted and more open to multiple intelligences. This would assist all of us in integrating Special Needs People into the school system and society.
Your parental challenges are immense and you face them with strength.
Also thanks for following my blog. It is greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much as a parent we have to and should do what ever we can…there are no short cuts when kids are grwoing for this is the time when they will learn the skills which will help them even after we are long gone..
you are so right about creative play
thanks again
You must be such a fun Mom and what a creative person you are too!
By the way, I meant to tell you I like your new look
smiles, Rx
Thanks Raven after changing the blog theme endlessly finally found something to hang on to…
hugs
Hi Soma, I love reading your posts. You are an amazing Mum and it is great that you share your stories with us. This post demonstrates your love for your daughter. Thank you for sharing. Lots of hugs xox
Maryanne you are a great lovely soul yourself…it means so much… all the word hugs from you..thanks for being so generous
Beautiful piece.
Thank you so much
Uncle Jyotirmoy…..u are very lucky indeed to be have been blessed with such a gifted daughter……Soma….am proud that u r my friend…..kudos girl….
Mala love ya babe…you are a lovely soul..you are such a warm inspiring teacher ..have seen kids dying to be in your class…biig hug
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I am unable to express my feelings within the quote/unquote, As probably ,why probably? surely I consider myself incompetent to describe my reaction to such a realistic creativity. As a parent of SOMA THE WRITER and CREATOR , I bow my head to the ALMIGHTY for giving me such a wonderful proud privilege .
THANK SOMI THANK GOD.
Bapi ..wow this is just awesome to get such lovely words from you.. i coudnt have asked for more,…you guys have been there with me in this journey..thank you so much for all the support and encouragment…
you are the bestestestestest Dad..love ya
What a touching piece of writing Miss Soma, thoughtful and reflective with no anger or rage. It is easy to look for something to blame, harder to turn things around like you have for positive outcomes.
God Bless
CW you always encourage me with warm word hugs..thanks for the lovely support..it gives me that push to do more do well
Soma, you are an inspiration to all parents! Your love, compassion and patience is endearing and a wonderful example for us all~
Nending Nou Nlessings nnd Nugs!
xx
Thank you so much Lauren…you are such sweet warm soul
thanks
Beutiful, lovely and interesting post ..
oh! forgetful ..
Neutiful, novely and nnteresting nost ..
Nreeting
Nank nou no nuch nor nuch na neartwarming nost, Noma, Nonita and Nuckles
)
I am so going to play this one with my 5year old daughter! She will love it!
nig nugs nu nou nand Namnam
Soma, you are clearly a paragon of patience and posivity. What an inspiration and what a post!
Oh nothing like that David..its just we do what we have to…Thats real sweet of you to say something like that….Thanks
It sounds like you are doing a fantastic job!!
Thanks Susie…I am trying
Thanks Susie, i hope so..there is a lot that needs to be done and i am trying my best
Soma…you have just spread goodwill ’round…I dunno why but I felt happy and content after reading this post…you handle kids beautifully….keep sharing your experiences…i’d love to hear from you
Cant tell you how happy your comment made me..Thank you so much…its a blessing to have the life I have…all fun,creative,warm people and kids around…
thanks a ton
Thank you, Soma. I learned something AND i smiled the whole time i was reading. Day after day i hope kid after kid will cross your path, meet you, speak with you, laugh along with you. The world needs more beings like you, especially its children. You’re kind of like that Mary Poppins. Tell me you like umbrellas
Thanks you thanks you thank you Kathyrene..I hope I do meet more kids…I love them all the well behaved,naughty every kids….Mary poppins-
Umbrella Yes I do….the bright coloured ones
New nre nust naweome Noma! Ni nove the nay new nave naught Nonita and the nother nildnren. Enen Ni am naving nun. Nuch a nonderful name to nlay nhat neaches nhem.
You have a heart of gold, by dear friend…So full of love and compassion for children and a burning desire to help them…..I love this post, and hope it make it around the world.
Love and Hugs, xx
Oh Deb you guys are just so full of warmth and beautiful heart…this encourages me to do more with the kids…thanks Deb love ya for all the encouraging lovely word hugs and just this awesome Soul that you are
love and hugs:)
Nou nare nust namazing.. Nevery nay ni nead nour nlog ni nlearn nomething new nin na nerrific nice nay. nhank nou noma. nalways naiting nor nore. neep nhem noming.
nam naving no nuch nun nith nhis nhat ni nust nont nant no neave.
No ny Nod Nito Nou nar na naster of N…Nave no Now Nis No Nonita Nand Nuckles
Nank Nou No Nuch
Nugs no both nof nhem. Nig night nones..
Nou Nare Ne Nest
My younger son used to do that, put everything in rows. That was the game he liked best. Whatever he got his hands on, he would put them in a row.
Simply love your post. Zuckles and Zonita sound such cool names
Shail thanks, really your son played the same way too….would love to know more about him…what a pleasure it is to watch kids play
thanks for the love
He was well and truly into the ‘make rows of everything’ routine. We still talk about it after all these years. He was not interested in stories or books. Come to think of it, I have never seen him play-act either unlike the older son.
He never seemed to have any patience. And today he is all grown up and an aspiring animator
Oh hugs, Soma
Oooops norry! Nugs, Noma

n nm nlad no now nou!! 
Nou nare nike nobody ni nknow
I absolutely admire and love and the way you show us to love the child in us, and free him or her! And to love children. Period.
You’er the best, dear Soma! Kudos! And Salutes!!!
Thanks Usha I means nanks
You are a wonderful teacher and all those lovely words from you made my day
hugs and love
Bravo Soma-smile.I am teacher and psychology.Enjoy your fanatstic child !!!!!
Very nice day-smile !!!!
Krystiana..thank you so much it really means a lot
hugs
Somi, hurrah for who you are! I adore you & Nita !!!! love.
Love ya sis, BTW Bonita was super excited to get a new name and she loved Nita
Hugs and love
Sorry Soma I can’t comment with N, because it’s so nice so beautiful so full of fun.9Nenjoyed na not) see,enjoyed a lot. I’m so proud of you.
Nai Nank you no nuch
I so loved this post Soma!
What a beautiful story full of so much love. You found a way to have so much fun with Bonita and then the other kids, too. What a blessing you are to Bonita, I so admire your ways of handling her autism! It’s N day and I am so not good at this, but I will give it a whirl…Nending nou nove, nugs, nmiles!
Thanks Gabby, You always come up with such heart warming comments….
Ni Nove Nou
Nig Neary Nugs
Wow, made me smile too…..You really can make the surrounding filled with joy…..and continue with this love, you are doing a great job…
Neace and nove, nake nare….:)
Nawan thank nou Ni new nou nould nunderstand
This made me smile. Good job in life and in communicating your journey.
Oh I am glad….your posts are so hilarious….it means a lot coming from you..thanks