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Zuckles,Zonita Zand Zee

We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we  forget that he is someone today.  ~Stacia Tauscher

I know the title of the post is self-explanatory but want to share more.

When my daughter was 2-year-old we noticed the only way she would play with anything and everything was to line them up …no matter what she had, cars, toys, shoes…. They all would fall in same line and then the game would end. She never used to play like other kids…this was when we started noticing other things and then came to know about her Autism…we were told most of the autistic kids don’t or can’t pretend play….you know how we would take a comb or a pencil box and act as if it were a phone or a microphone and talk.

Most of them( Autistic kids) will have no idea what to do with a car or a doll ….And we were told by the doctors and special educators to teach Bonita pretend play…..that is wroom with a car,or dressing up a doll,make up,pretending to be doctor,or teacher etc…and age appropriate plays and language.

And this is how our journey to Zonita began.

[I was quite a naughty kid and I always thought Oh all these brilliant naughty ideas and no one to share with….and look at Gods mysterious ways…he must have really loved my naughtiness for now he wanted my daughter to learn them and that too from one of the best in the business.]

Our pretend play sessions were full of mischief and laughter (otherwise what is the point) like this one time we pretended there was water in the room and we swam across room and fought with crocodiles and a snake.

Oh there were so many things we did…One Day I told her we both have to talk loud as we are in a market and there is too much noise all around, And then next time we whispered as we were in jungle surrounded by dinosaurs

We still do a lot of things Crazy and fun.

One day we decided we will only talk in NATO phonetic Alphabets….Oh! that was tough and we could not continue it for more than half an hour ,For just to say “Bonita finish your food” meant

Bravo Oscar November IndiaTango Alpha Foxtrot India November IndiaSierra Hotel Yankee Oscar Uniform Romeo Foxtrot Oscar Oscar Delta

That was tough and we laughed more than we talked every time some big sentence came up

Anyways the point of all these were to introduce her to endless possibilities…having fun with whatever we had, teaching her to be naughty too….so in all these crazy moments we decided we will have alphabet days.

So on a B day every word would start with B

Bonita finish your food would be Bonita binish bour bood and then she would say bes bommy

One of the Tuesday afternoon after picking her from the gate where the school van drops off all the kids,we were in the lift and having this ‘B’ routine, there was one more kid in the lift.He must have enjoyed it a lot cos he told me Bauntie boo bar bo bunny

To which I said- Bank bou.Bi bam blad bou biked bit

He laughed and said this is fun I have to tell this to my friends

I asked him his name and he said I don’t like my name. That… that was the point I fell in love with his cute little kid…..You See I don’t like my name too ( It’s a long story will tell you some other day, Hope my parents are reading this ). So I told him I will call him chuckles cos I love the way he laughs. He laughed and agreed( and his names keeps changing Zuckles on a Zday,Nuckles on Nday)

Now I have to mention here,Even though we live in the same building Chuckles and I don’t meet that often due to different school timings

So next time we met it was a Z day and he joined in

Zello Zonita,he said

Bonita was happy to have a new Zriend and she said Zello Zuckles

Bonita told him she didn’t like one of her teachers and zuckles said that was normal and so on

And yesterday all of a sudden zuckles showed up at my door with his friends and asked me what day was it I said it was Zday and he grinned and said he loved Z

So all of us spoke about anything and everything in Z they laughed and rolled on floor.And told me they will have these funny days when they play.

Then one of the kids who was 6 years old said he hated math’s( he said Zi zate Zaths)….Everyone understood and sympathized

Then he asked me auntie can’t we live without learning math!

What??? there was a pin drop silent and all of them were looking at me And I was desperately trying to think of something clever.I said I didn’t like maths at all ( I really don’t) but some things in life you must learn, like riding a cycle…or learning how to swim…

How can math be like cycle zuckles asked?

Well, I told when you grow up you may  or may not need to ride a cycle but if you learn riding one you will learn how to balance and this will come handy in other things too…Similarly when you grow up you may not have to solve the same questions you solve now….But plus minus, multiplication, division, fractions…are the basic math which you will need in your day-to-day life.

So they all decided they will learn basic math ( atleast)except for one kid who loved math

Phew

So zuckles and zis zriends zaid zeir zoodzyes zand zent zaway

What a day we had…

Oh before I go… Today is Nday

No nave na neautiful nay nall nof nou nand Nake nare 🙂

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About Soma Mukherjee

I often say things that put me in a jam, Jams go well with Buttered Toasts, Toasts are great hosts, Ghosts not so much, Although they can dance, Not all dancers are serial killers, Serial killers do not use Body bags that often, body bags aren't leak proof, Proof is in the Pudding.

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  1. You have your priorities right. Life should be fun no matter what the circumstances and circumstances can be very cruel at times. You are an inspiration and right up there at the top of my list of people to admire. Jai Soma!

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  2. Oh my goodness! Incredible article dude! Many thanks, However I am experiencing problems with your RSS.
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  4. Nove na nay nou nive nife.. 😉

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  5. What a great Mom, you are! Nice story. : )

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  6. Hugsss and some more,,,,,

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  7. Somzy,,,,U r Ali Madam true protegee,,,Bonita is sooo lucky to have you ….

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  8. A fascinating and well done post. If more parents invested time in creative play with their children, all of the children would be better adjusted and more open to multiple intelligences. This would assist all of us in integrating Special Needs People into the school system and society.
    Your parental challenges are immense and you face them with strength.
    Also thanks for following my blog. It is greatly appreciated.

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    • Thank you so much as a parent we have to and should do what ever we can…there are no short cuts when kids are grwoing for this is the time when they will learn the skills which will help them even after we are long gone..
      you are so right about creative play
      thanks again 🙂

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  9. Raven of Leyla

    You must be such a fun Mom and what a creative person you are too!
    By the way, I meant to tell you I like your new look 😉
    smiles, Rx

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  10. Hi Soma, I love reading your posts. You are an amazing Mum and it is great that you share your stories with us. This post demonstrates your love for your daughter. Thank you for sharing. Lots of hugs xox

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  11. Uncle Jyotirmoy…..u are very lucky indeed to be have been blessed with such a gifted daughter……Soma….am proud that u r my friend…..kudos girl….

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  12. ” “.
    I am unable to express my feelings within the quote/unquote, As probably ,why probably? surely I consider myself incompetent to describe my reaction to such a realistic creativity. As a parent of SOMA THE WRITER and CREATOR , I bow my head to the ALMIGHTY for giving me such a wonderful proud privilege .
    THANK SOMI THANK GOD.

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    • Bapi ..wow this is just awesome to get such lovely words from you.. i coudnt have asked for more,…you guys have been there with me in this journey..thank you so much for all the support and encouragment…
      you are the bestestestestest Dad..love ya 🙂

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  13. What a touching piece of writing Miss Soma, thoughtful and reflective with no anger or rage. It is easy to look for something to blame, harder to turn things around like you have for positive outcomes.

    God Bless

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  14. Soma, you are an inspiration to all parents! Your love, compassion and patience is endearing and a wonderful example for us all~

    Nending Nou Nlessings nnd Nugs! 🙂 xx

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  15. Beutiful, lovely and interesting post ..
    oh! forgetful ..
    Neutiful, novely and nnteresting nost ..
    Nreeting

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  16. Nank nou no nuch nor nuch na neartwarming nost, Noma, Nonita and Nuckles :))

    I am so going to play this one with my 5year old daughter! She will love it!

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  17. Soma, you are clearly a paragon of patience and posivity. What an inspiration and what a post!

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  18. It sounds like you are doing a fantastic job!!

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  19. Soma…you have just spread goodwill ’round…I dunno why but I felt happy and content after reading this post…you handle kids beautifully….keep sharing your experiences…i’d love to hear from you 🙂

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  20. Thank you, Soma. I learned something AND i smiled the whole time i was reading. Day after day i hope kid after kid will cross your path, meet you, speak with you, laugh along with you. The world needs more beings like you, especially its children. You’re kind of like that Mary Poppins. Tell me you like umbrellas 🙂

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    • Thanks you thanks you thank you Kathyrene..I hope I do meet more kids…I love them all the well behaved,naughty every kids….Mary poppins- 😆
      Umbrella Yes I do….the bright coloured ones 🙂

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  21. New nre nust naweome Noma! Ni nove the nay new nave naught Nonita and the nother nildnren. Enen Ni am naving nun. Nuch a nonderful name to nlay nhat neaches nhem.
    You have a heart of gold, by dear friend…So full of love and compassion for children and a burning desire to help them…..I love this post, and hope it make it around the world.
    Love and Hugs, xx

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    • Oh Deb you guys are just so full of warmth and beautiful heart…this encourages me to do more with the kids…thanks Deb love ya for all the encouraging lovely word hugs and just this awesome Soul that you are
      love and hugs:)

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  22. Nou nare nust namazing.. Nevery nay ni nead nour nlog ni nlearn nomething new nin na nerrific nice nay. nhank nou noma. nalways naiting nor nore. neep nhem noming.

    nam naving no nuch nun nith nhis nhat ni nust nont nant no neave. 😀

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  23. My younger son used to do that, put everything in rows. That was the game he liked best. Whatever he got his hands on, he would put them in a row.
    Simply love your post. Zuckles and Zonita sound such cool names 🙂

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    • Shail thanks, really your son played the same way too….would love to know more about him…what a pleasure it is to watch kids play 🙂
      thanks for the love 🙂

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      • He was well and truly into the ‘make rows of everything’ routine. We still talk about it after all these years. He was not interested in stories or books. Come to think of it, I have never seen him play-act either unlike the older son. 🙂 He never seemed to have any patience. And today he is all grown up and an aspiring animator 🙂

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  24. Oh hugs, Soma 🙂 Oooops norry! Nugs, Noma 😀 😀
    Nou nare nike nobody ni nknow 🙂 n nm nlad no now nou!! 🙂
    I absolutely admire and love and the way you show us to love the child in us, and free him or her! And to love children. Period.
    You’er the best, dear Soma! Kudos! And Salutes!!! 🙂 🙂

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  25. Bravo Soma-smile.I am teacher and psychology.Enjoy your fanatstic child !!!!!
    Very nice day-smile !!!!
    😉

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  26. Blood-Ink-Diary

    Somi, hurrah for who you are! I adore you & Nita !!!! love.

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  27. Sorry Soma I can’t comment with N, because it’s so nice so beautiful so full of fun.9Nenjoyed na not) see,enjoyed a lot. I’m so proud of you.

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  28. I so loved this post Soma! 🙂 What a beautiful story full of so much love. You found a way to have so much fun with Bonita and then the other kids, too. What a blessing you are to Bonita, I so admire your ways of handling her autism! It’s N day and I am so not good at this, but I will give it a whirl…Nending nou nove, nugs, nmiles! 🙂

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  29. Pawan Hira (awakeningpsyche)

    Wow, made me smile too…..You really can make the surrounding filled with joy…..and continue with this love, you are doing a great job…
    Neace and nove, nake nare….:)

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  30. This made me smile. Good job in life and in communicating your journey.

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