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Autism- Let’s have Fun

2nd April is World Autism Awareness Day. I will be wearing Blue, talking about it, helping people understand Myths and Facts surrounding Autism.
  • eg- Moms who watch horror movies during their pregnancy give birth to Autistic kids–hell no, that will only make the kid see dead people!
  • Autistic kids are born to parents who believe in Alien invasions, ughh, no again. They will have a kid born with tin foil covering the head…… get the point.
I have always believed if you are not having fun you are not doing it right. No matter what you do, do it with all your heart and you will enjoy the journey. An anxious worried parent cannot raise a happy child.
The mantra is fun and Honesty. be crazy, be love, be structured, be mess, be understanding, be considerate, give space to your kid, believe in giving not just 2nd or 3rd but 1000 chances, one day success- next day what happened- no problem let’s start again!
There is no one way to live with autism, what works for you may or may not help others, let’s not blindly follow others and let’s not force others to follow our ways.
no medicines unless 100% sure of its origin and effects.
Well that’s that now let’s have fun.
Inside the head of an autism Mom there is a weird ninja fun zone, but she isn’t born with it, this kind of madness and insanity takes unlearning and learning 100,000 times.  But once you reach this madness its fun not just for the parent but also the kid.
 Human brain has two sides, left and right and I have a third one, which keeps shifting its position and makes me write weird posts and make strange cartoons and doodles. It is called floating craziness, can be seen in mirror and it has its own shadow too and it helps me understand Autism.
With help of this third part of brain I made some fun Autism Doodles and cartoons, hope you enjoy.
What is autism
alien spider pact
race in autism land
love in air
raccoon says
angel goth
autism land1
Now a fun question
1) An animal who is Leopard by day and rabbit by night.
2) A rabbit wearing leopard print.
3) A leopard who loves carrots.
4) A crocodile with funky name
do not copy

Autism – The Staring Strangers


Just imagine a day when You go out to a nearby store to buy grocery and wherever you go, eyes follow you, you can feel those eyes on you, looking at you, almost as if waiting for you to make a mistake and prove them right,  talking in a hush-hush voice, but you know it’s all about you, some stares of pity, some of disgust.

you leave the store go to a restaurant to eat,  order something and look forward to enjoying a great meal,trying to shrug off that eerie feeling in the shop earlier but the restaurant is no different, people are eating and their conversation has shifted from whatever they were discussing to you, they are looking at you the way kids look at a new animal in a zoo, talk about you watch your every move as if this is the first time they have seen a human eating..

Rest of the day no matter where you go what you do eyes follow you,and so do whispers….


This is a day in the life of most autistic kids and everyday of their lives they will have to live with these stares ..

and it wont change if you don’t,

you can’t change if your thinking doesn’t,

your thinking wont change if you do not educate yourself ..

Learn about people around you,learn how to live in a society where different people will live, some will be Autistic, some dyslexic, some both, mentally and/or  physically different from the “normal people”

Know that staring at some one makes them feel extremely uncomfortable, no matter what they say, it is rude..if you can’t care then don’t, but do not stare at people just cos they are different from you…


It is hard not to stare at things different but you have to know when to move on..for a parent trying to calm down their kid having a meltdown is not an easy task, they need all the space they can get at that moment, unsolicited advices from people who have no idea, telling them about disciplining kids is not going to help , in fact it will make the situation much worse fo the kid and the parents. Best help is to clear the area for a while and give them a breathing space and if you happen to be a special educator then you know what you have to do…

I am a mother of a lovely 13 year of girl with autism, she can pick up any tune on piano just by listening to it once, she is extremely computer savvy, she is a good singer and dancer and she is a very loving caring girl, she is all these and more and she is very sensitive… ….

she knows it when people are making fun of her, talking about her, laughing at her or staring  and all these things  upset her and when she is upset she never performs, never shows what she can do ..withdraws into a shell.

There are times when she gets irritated, like by the buzzing sound (bees or welding) or loud noise or a fight or when she is trying to communicate but no one around her is able to understand her and she cries and pushes anyone who tries to hug her…She is not being Rude, this is her asking for help, telling you something is bothering her a lot..

There are hundreds of kids like her , you may know one.

Next time you get to meet someone like my daughter in a small store, a restaurant or a shopping mall, different from ‘normal’ kids, let them be, you didn’t come all the way to this shop to stare at the kid, did you?

Different is not necessarily bad, sometimes we are scared of different just because we don’t know anything about it and when we get to know it we are surprised cos all of a sudden ‘the change,  the different’ is  not scary anymore. is evolving and so are traits in humans..some for good and  some may not be great but they are what they are..some of the rarely found traits or conditions are now seen more…what was 1 in 200 a few years back is now around 1 in 88….

This is Today,This is Future with a lot of things way different from when you were a kid ..

This is Life today, there will be more changes,  more  different tomorrow…

A beautiful story By Autumn, a must read-

The Purple Gummy Bear

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मन्त्रपुस्तिका ( book of spells)

अनाहूतः प्रविशति अपृष्टो बहु भाषते ।
अविश्वस्ते विश्वसिति मूढ़चेता नराधमः ॥२॥
(महाभारत उद्योगपर्व विदुरप्रजागर, अ० ३२)
Anahootah pravishati aprishto bahu bhasatey ।
 avishvaste vishvasiti moodhacheta naradhamah ॥
Taken from mahabharata,this verse means A wretched fool can be recognized by the following three characteristics – going to places uninvited, talking too much when not asked, trusting the unworthy. – Vidura, Mahabharata)
Bonita( my daughter) was diagnosed with Autism when she was around 2-2.5 yrs of age and when people around came to know about it some of them just felt we needed black magic or spells to “cure” autism.
someone told us to feed her the leftovers of a talking bird or parrot, or boil some pulses in a special bowl and keep in the southwest corner of house.,or keep a key under her pillow this will unlock her brain…or go to this baba or chant that spell…..the list is long as this went on for a while.
If you know me you will also know I listened to all of them, went home laughed over it and never ever tried any of those stupid things.( also it is a good thing if you slowly distance yourself from these people if they keep pestering you with unsolicited crap)
I mean I love my kid I can and will do anything for her but there is a limit to everything and superstitions have never been and are not going to be part of my life…..
That was then but now when i remember those advices i can’t resist a chuckle.
The reason I wrote this post today is because I am planning to write book …it will be about spells and how they make your life easy breezy and smooth. Also there is no harm in giving back to the society what I got from it …but before i can start the work I thought of  sharing some of my brilliant ideas with all of you and get some expert advice on whether I am going on the right track or not…..
The three most important things to know before you start reading this post
1) never make fun of spells
2) do not share your magic candles with anyone unless you hate them
3) keep a diary of spell you have used, for second time users there is a discount of sorts
who can benefit from this book
those who hate hard work or any work for that matter.
those who want to become famous by doing nothing
those who want to become rich fast and easy
those who want to smuggle or rob and never get caught
who doesn’t hate exams…..I don’t know who started this evil ritual or  what was wrong with that guy and why we burden our kids with it year after year,but since nothing good in this field is going to happen in our life time, might as well study. OR
Before taking a test or exam, say the following:

Today is my test
tests are like pests
teachers are worse
studies are curse
Get me an A,
cos so I say
Earth, wind, fire, and sea
As I  Say, So Mote It Be!”

* It also helps to draw a pentagram on your test  paper and write your name and phone number

Not only you are jobless and your dog gives you THE LOOK , no one in your family has ever being filthy rich so what are your chances,..Isnt it heart breaking that none of the rich people leaving millions for charity or their kids, have ever known you, being related to you or even considered you a charity case!!!

for all you poor people ( literally and otherwise) this is the least I can do for you

Before going to the interview place three grains of salt ( and I mean 3 grains using electron microscope or whatever)in a handkerchief  and put it in your pocket. when the interview is going on, distract the  interviewer saying hey whats that and when he/ they look somewhere else throw the salt into  the north corner of the room. Within three days you will have the job.

* it also helps if before leaving the room you leave a chit for them with the following written on it and oh never forget to draw a pentagram

give me this job you fool
don’t make me lose my cool
if I don’t get this job
you are the first one I will rob
earth wind fire and sea
as I say so mote it be


I know I know I can see that eager grin so let’s get on to it

Take a piece of parchment paper and draw a pentacle in the  center and write the following under it-

Refrigerator how dare thee

Stay Invisible To Me

While writing concentrate on yourself at the desired weight you have  in mind. Attach the paper to the fridge, until you reach your goal. oh and yes secure your fridge by drawing a circle of salt around it


This is something I have made after going through some 100,000 old magic spells
if this doesn’t work you are in wrong body,country or planet, but its not my fault at all.
First choose a background with four candles on four corners of you blog something like this
Do not use this candle cos i have cursed it and who ever uses it will never be able to rhyme again
Once you have done it choose a header with pentagram or make one, but it has to be of your hair colour, in case you do not have hair,go for hair grafting and then start blogging.
Do not forget to get a witch widget and flaunt it on the top right/left of the widget coloumn
and post this mantra in your about me section
“I the owner of this blog
all set to sacrifice 25 frogs
give me more followers oh spell
may those who follow me never go to hell
Earth, wind, fire, and sea
As I Say, So Mote It Be!”
Now here is the thing, where will you get 25 frogs from and even if you do how will you dispose them off.You can donate it to a lab, but frogs will be cursed and there are chances students dissecting them will fail.
you can always dump them in a pond or river,but since the frogs are cursed pond or river may dry.
so the best option is get 25 e-frogs and drop them in an e-well ( doesn’t that sounds great)
and in 25 minutes you blog shall receive hundreds and thousands of followers
people will praise you…
so what do you think, should I continue writing the book,do you think it will be a best seller(  i mean of course it will be, i am not going to write a book on spell and not write a spell for its success)
How many of you are going to buy this book?
Are there any special spells you would like to see in this book?
and can you also suggest a good tittle for the book?
Wish you all a great day, and if you are wondering how..take some rock salt add in dragon blood and throw it  on every one around 🙂

Finger Muddies

wrapped in  my sari
A face painted with lipstick
smiling little angel
knocked on my door
and said
Ma…. model
that of course she was
I looked at her and smiled 
and told her you are the best
she giggled,pointed at my face and said
liptip (lipstick)
and we both looked super hot
on that beautiful mischievous afternoon

Bonita holi colours(left) and lipstick all over her face(right)

and then one afternoon she came all proud
grass in her hair
fingers dipped specially in mud
which she called finger muddies
toes brown green grunge
covered in  grass and mud pack
and she said
mummy look
i painted earth on my frock
i hugged my daughter and said
aint this the best painting in the world 🙂
and she said i can paint this on you too
i have more
and i smiled and said
really i cant wait to see
what’s in store
oh the earth print on both of us
scared the neighbours
earned some frowns
and some cute little giggles
such are my afternoon delights
[This poem is about my daughter (BONITA)when she was a little kid and the fun crazy afternoons we used to have. There are things only a mom and daughter share, what a blessing it is to have a daughter]
Today-April 2nd is Autism Awareness day. I was brainstorming how to reach to other parents and then got an idea from my friend Autumns’s todays post, where she wrote about how time flies and our little angels grow up and before we can say a proper bye they are far away from the nest.
And then wrote the above poem on all the fun afternoons we used to have 🙂
I remembered the early days when we were struggling to break the barrier between us and our daughter. She didn’t speak properly ..that is in sentences or understood small instructions till she was 8-9. Early on we realised we were doing it all wrong and instead of books started listening to our hearts.
We were trying to teach our daughter our ways without understanding or knowing where she was……that is when the whole journey of autism,understanding,playing and creating new exciting possibilities, customising instructions to make it easy and fun for our daughter began.
If you have read one of my posts Zuckles,Zonita zand Zee you will know We( Bonita and me) are two crazy people growing up and learning the skills to live in this insane world and so far we have done pretty good job. 🙂
I am no “Guru” on Autism but would definitely like to share one thing i have learnt in all these years…know your child and become one if needed and see how easy parenting becomes. It is important to instill good values in your child through your work and words.
It is important to teach discipline too but do you really know the PERSON you are trying to mould or discipline??
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